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  • 枫下沙龙 / 谈天说地 / 我是个有三岁女儿的母亲,带她去加拿大的利与弊分析,希望过来人给点意见
    利: 1)和父母在一起是天经地义,可以促进感情,免除牵肠挂肚的思念之苦;
    2)都说加国是孩子的天堂,我想那儿的幼儿教育比国内好;
    3)可以得到牛奶金和减税(还是退税?)提前享受加国福利;
    4)小孩早日掌握英语,就越容易融入这个国家,越容易交到朋友,别小看
    这点,这对小孩的心理健康有好处;

    弊: 1)小孩越早到加国,则汉语越差,并且还越不愿意学;
    2)新移民刚到一个陌生的环境,有个小孩在身边,会感到压力越大,出门
    做事很不方便,老公找一份计算机工作没有问题,但我则肯定要牺牲
    宝贵的工作学习时间来陪伴和教育女儿,这是让我最感头痛的地方,
    因为我想继续读书,我必须全身心投入更多的时间去读书;
    3)在国内,每年我们出去长途旅游时,可以将女儿放在长辈那儿并且有保母
    照顾,到了北美,面对大好风光却很难成行,因为女儿很调皮,带她出门
    就只能整天看着她,没办法去享受旅游心情;
    4)在国内,女儿和长辈睡,到了加国则要和我们一起睡,完全没有了两公婆
    之间的私人空间;
    5)无论加国政府给小孩提供多少补贴,幼儿园的费用远远大过国内;
    • no experience yet. but I still suggest you to bring her together.
      otherwise it's very possible that you two will regret in the future for not watching her growing up, which could bring you serious trouble in communication with her. (I've seen many such unhappy stories.)
      As parents, you have to try to teach her to write Chinese at least once a week; and I think if you can afford it(of course you can if either of you have a job), you'd better get your daughter her own room---you can leave her alone after she falls into sleep, that's good for all of you. You can hire a babysitter when you want to go out, and I think daycare for full-time students should be cheaper than regular daycare centre.
      the last word I want to say is that being parents is kind of sacrifice of personal lives, but once you decide to be parents, you should accept it and enjoy it, because she's your angel.
      Good luck.
      • 你说得对,我也倾向于这种想法,anyway,thanks!
    • 若带女儿来,一定先在国内时就订好房间,租也好先到移民之家也好,一定不要landing后从机场出来还带着女儿到处找房,孩子会很受罪的。