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  • 枫下拾英 / 心情随笔 / 女人为了事业,真的可以不需要家吗?
    这几天大家帮助我很多,在北京的女朋友离开我了,但是我得朋友还在,就是你们!我现在心情好些,只是想知道我原来女朋友说得,她去日本之后,在那里创建自己的事业,以后她的事业成功,她说,她不需要家庭,那样会舒服自己,她说,弱国女人事业成功了,周围是不会缺少男孩子的.这个我相信,只是我想知道,女人在事业成功之后,真的不需要家庭吗?
    • 大多数人(无论男女)都需要家庭。
      • 我想也是的~~无论如何,家庭给你温暖.
    • 任何人都需要有家庭的温暖的,我的感觉是你的朋友的想法还是幼稚了一些
      • So that's why his girlfriend leave him
      • 她一心想去日本创建她自己的事业在她大学毕业以后,那就教她去吧,我相信,有一天,她会想起来我对他的嘱咐.
    • "她说,弱国女人事业成功了,周围是不会缺少男孩子的.这个我相信". -- I don't believe so. Man can be attracted by a lot of things, among which a successful career is so unimportant. Am I right?
      • 她相信他自己的美貌,加上自己的能力,在日本是可以很好的发展自己的,我不会劝她什莫,分开了,我就祝她幸福好啦~!
    • that depend on how you define "family", everybody has his own defination based on his own experience, and all those definations are correct.
    • 哥们,你还没转出来啊? 航行的船永远需要港口停泊,只是不知道是哪个港口而已。
      • 既然我和她已经分开,就教她去吧,我没有什莫想不来的~也许,今后她在出现在我面前,就是和一个日本人啦~她喜欢日本,她说,她的事业在那里!
    • faint!这种话你也信?这只不过是她的一种说辞而已,女人如果真的爱上一个人,怎么会不想和他有个温馨的家呢!怎么会不好好经营这个家呢!
      • 唉,有的女人真的会这样。。。: ((
        • 少之又少,所以如果被谁摊上了,那真是……霉运……惟有赶快闪!
          • 我闪
            • 你煞费苦心买戒指要送的女朋友是这样的??!!
              • kidding.
                • 吓死我了,差点怀疑这世上真没有美梦成真的事拉!:)
                  • thanks, : )
        • Faint; Coundn't inexperinced you figure out this is an excuse she used to refuse you?
          No matter how and how long you've been together, she's never been satisfied with you and she's been looking over you for someone else of certain type, which probably she herself is uncertain about. Lucky you haven't been heart-broken due to some more faint , uglier scenarios; Poor guy, you're just NOT THE ONE for her.

          Agree that every normal human-being needs companion unless s/he is out of mind. Sounds awkward to be related to career success. Who'd care as long as there was the feel!

          Man, be realistic a "byte" and look ahead for your fortune which apparently doesn't lie in that girl at this moment of your life, or forever.
      • 我们很好的时候,她许诺了好多,包括今后家庭的问题,但是她的这个想法一夜之间忽然变化,认为家庭没有意义.我不这样认为,我认为,它在着一个理由给我:)
    • She might think: is that my future? is that my dream. It is difficult for her to make choice. She can not give up her own dream.
      • 是的,她认为,为了和我来加拿大,她放弃自己的日语不值得,也许她很现实:)
    • I only look this type of girls from far away or don't kown their exist at all.
      • 谢谢你!我会很好的调节自己,和她做一个普通朋友好啦~
    • 家庭生活只是生活的一种,或者是一部分,如果你朋友接触的人是成功的单身人士,整天 出入宝马香车,往来上流社会,交往达官贵人,经历灯红酒绿,离平常的家庭生活很远, 也就不羡慕家庭了。
      单身的选择会越来越流行,家庭,很多时候是个人生活保障的共同体,其中的乐趣,并
      不是最好最理想的,但可能是最现实的,如果个人能力很强,阅历很丰富,另一种非家庭
      的生活情趣,可能更好,不过是多数人不具备争取的能力罢了。

      不过,你这个大学都不毕业的女友,不过是不再喜欢你找的借口而已,总不能说:讨厌你
      了,别来烦我!毕竟,人还是有点良心的。

      什么叫为了事业,事业如果不能带来金钱,荣誉,能力,谁会去爱他?傻子?
    • 没必要为用这种理由离开你的女孩伤心,难道还要聚也依依,散也依依?象你这种年轻小伙,天下何处无芳草。
      • 谢谢大老虎~我想,在这里我大学毕业之后,把自己的事业搞好,相信一切都会好的!我现在在慢慢适应原来的生活:)
    • 她还小,还没长大呢。女人没事业是不行的,可是没家庭是万万不行的。呵呵,我的观点比较守旧也比较贪。
      • 事业诚可贵,爱情价更高,若为家庭故,什么都别抛。xixi成功的女人是什么都有 的。。。
        • It is easy to say, difficult to do. Woman has to be independent, has to take care of children and husband. My friends' experience in china (also some novels) told me Independence is the most important.
          • 谢谢你!我现在努力的教自己在成熟些,在独立些:)
      • 我相信她离开我之后,在大学毕业走到日本之后,她会明白的.
        • yes, she did not try, she will never know what is she really want.
          I tried, but I still do not know what is I really want. hehe.
          • 既然她牺牲了我,我就祝福她,希望她成功!当然,她要是遇到困难,我想我还是会帮助她,毕竟分开,也是做一个朋友吧