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  • 枫下沙龙 / 谈天说地 / What interests me -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-8 {2103} (#326380@0)
    本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

    It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

    It doesn't interest me what planets are you squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain. I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fix it.

    I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers, and toes without cautioning us to be careful. To be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.

    It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be unfaithful and therefore trustworthy.

    I want to know if you can see beauty, even when it's not pretty, every day, and if you can source your own life from its presence.

    I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, "yes!"

    It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

    It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

    It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.

    I want to know if you van be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moment.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
    • That is good standard for love or marriage! *_* I like it a lot. -dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子); 2002-1-8 (#326460@0)
    • i am deeply touched by this article .it's really a good article.we should face the difficulties as a positive attitude. -happyface(快乐无极限); 2002-1-8 (#326468@0)
    • Does anyone want to talk about "if you can be unfaithful and therefore trustworthy " part ? -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-8 (#327095@0)
    • What a great article bring me fresh air! and What a brave and true heat! so love it! -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-8 (#327099@0)
      • I'm glad 3 of you upstairs enjoy reading this article written by mountain dreamer, a very intelligent woman; by the way, who would like to talk about the part "if you can be unfaithful and therefore trustworthy. " ? -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-8 (#327102@0)
        • Tell me how u understand this. I am not sure about this sentense.......maybe a little bit too compliated to me. :-) -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-8 (#327106@0)
          • Have you ever fight with yourself about what to follow - a promise or your changed heart? -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-8 (#327108@0)
            • I always follow my heart..........It doesn't change too much........not now. :-) -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-8 (#327119@0)
              • Well, then in other words -- -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-8 {332} (#327137@0)
                There are some cases,

                1. which one is more important - your partner is faithful to you or to himself?

                2, he is always following his heart even though he might be unfaithful to you, can you still trust him?

                3, he doesn't follow his heart so that he could always be faithful to you, will you love and trust him more or less?
                • Ahhhhhhh, Now I know........it's a tricky question! ^o^ -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-8 {1715} (#327164@0)
                  本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛1. which one is more important - your partner is faithful to you or to himself?

                  To himself......coz I don't appreciate a shell without soul.

                  2, he is always following his heart even though he might be unfaithful to you, can you still trust him?

                  There could be hundreds of reason that he CHANGES from being faithful to me TO being unfaithful to me.............from outside (I could be a reason even) and inside affection.

                  Any way, It's hard for me use the word of "Trust" I guess. coz I am always a emotional edividual, and I have to be fair to myself as well. I will respect him (being true and brave ) more, maybe not publicly....but I will keep distance to him. like I appreciate somebody still who doesn't really relates to me much! if u know what I mean.

                  So trust (like my beloved? ) no, no way.......but trust as a old friend. maybe, if there is still friendship left.....

                  3, he doesn't follow his heart so that he could always be faithful to you, will you love and trust him more or less?

                  (Firstly, I think this questions is not only talking about friendship, but more like a relationship, is it? lol.)

                  Well, If I found so. I will leave him even before he leaves me. coz I will be strong enough to know I will be fine without his pretending faith, coz I prefer lonely and tough truth much more than unhonestness.........and he/she has to be honest to his/her heart.

                  that way, I might still love or trust him/her, but from a distance. Coz, the fact is something changed.

                  Ok, here is the question for you: ^o^
                  1, Is the diffence that obevious, that your heart is still faithful or unfaithful?

                  2, What will be your answers. (r u bothered by those thinkings? :-)更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
                  • nice! very nice! -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-8 {611} (#327213@0)
                    # 1, Is the diffence that obevious, that your heart is still faithful or unfaithful ?

                    --- I would say "Yes" and "No", all depense on how deeply this person would dig into his heart. In many cases, people compromise under the pressure from outside and inside of relasionship. It takes lots of courage to be true onself. You are one of few indeed!


                    #2, What will be your answers. (r u bothered by those thinkings? :-)

                    --- I have similar idea as yours, thanks for your concern. Moreover, have you been aware of what this attitude would bring to your life? A risky adventure, hmmmm, nice! very nice!
                    • I like your answer. :-) -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-8 {269} (#327271@0)
                      # 1, U think so, wow, that's a big compliment for me! :-)

                      #2, It could be A risky adventure......at the same time, it could be confident and most relaxed feelings about yourself.........Not too bad! :-)

                      What's the most risky adventure u have been experienced?
                      • one of those is "parachute jump" -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-8 (#327288@0)
                        • for me was to love a preson. :-)) -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-10 (#329323@0)
        • 在友情与原则间选择后者--坚持原则的人是不是更可信赖? -hanarmy(汉军); 2002-1-8 (#327139@0)
          • 若你的朋友不理解你的原则而又期待你因友(爱)情去改变你的原则，你还会维持这段友(爱)情吗？ -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-8 (#327145@0)
            • 我是试着翻译mountain dreamer的话. dreamer嘛, 当然是理想主义了. :) -hanarmy(汉军); 2002-1-8 (#327152@0)
              • 那么现实一点应该怎样呢？ -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-8 (#327159@0)
            • Are we talking about freedom between a friendship or love? coz if so. I will say there should be some freedom and difference. Like a friend of mine once said to me: TO AGREE TO DISAGREE. -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-8 (#327183@0)
          • Well, here is a word: MATCH......... -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-8 (#327168@0)
            • 怎么理解? -hanarmy(汉军); 2002-1-8 (#327178@0)
            • 如果(#327168) 是针对(#327152) 而答， 确实有点confused. -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-8 (#327229@0)
              • Sorry guys, i know I didn't explain more clearly.......well, What I am say is: Don't think friendship (love) come by luck somehow.....even it could be wrong! -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-8 {91} (#327265@0)
                Coz there will be needs for understanding to each other's principles somehow........right?
                • Sorry........Don't YOU think...... -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-8 (#327284@0)
                • right, and -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-8 {246} (#327324@0)
                  there is no forever-principle, it changes in different stage of your life. sometimes friend, partner, even oneself might be blind and not able to see this change.... that is why to keep an open mind is so essential....hah, life is so interesting!
                  • if a person is not boring....there will be very few chance that he/she complain of boring.....:-)) -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-10 (#329322@0)
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