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  • 枫下沙龙 / 谈天说地 / 你的生活是一种表演吗？ -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-13 {852} (#332447@0)
    故事：

    有一名医生成了他们国家最优秀的外科大夫。他当选为国家外科医生协会的理事长。在他当选为理事长的那一天，举行了盛大的庆典。但他却感到悲哀。

    一位朋友问他：“你为什么看上去那么忧伤？你应该非常、非常地高兴才对。你成了最优秀的外科大夫，现在你是无可匹敌的。一个外科医生所能获得的最高荣誉便是成为国家外
    科医生协会的理事长。为什么你这样忧伤呢？”

    外科大夫答道：“我从来就不想当医生，可我却为此而获得了成功。我现在已无从逃脱。如果我失败了，我还有重新选择的机会，但现在我已经动不得了。”

    他的朋友说：“你在开玩笑吧，你说些什么呀？你的家人高兴，你的妻子高兴，你的孩子也高兴，每个人都高兴——每个人都对你推崇备至。”

    医生说：“但我无法尊敬自己，而那是根本的事情。我想成为一个舞蹈家，可我父母不允许，我不得不服从他们。我是一个懦夫。我成了最优秀的外科医生，我并不快乐。我不快乐是因为我是这个世界上最糟糕的舞蹈家。我不能跳舞，这就是症结所在。”
    • 一旦你显露了表演和展示的倾向，(转) -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-13 {228} (#332466@0)
      世界就会即刻进入并禁锢你。你成了一个受害者。一旦你对他人对你的看法发生兴趣，你的每一个新的行动都将是一次失败。你活着，满足你自己，其他人活着，满足他们自身。如果他们对你有所期望，那是他们的问题，他们将痛苦。但你不必为此弄虚作假。
      • 是呀，所以说人活着一定要先满足自己，让自己每天高兴才是真的！ -tristan(风亦雪@起个大早); 2002-1-13 (#332478@0)
        • 爱也是因为高兴，不是一种投资 -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-13 {24} (#332482@0)
          那么，婚姻是一种投资吗？
          • YES? -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-13 (#333217@0)
            • 愿闻高见 -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-13 (#333221@0)
            • Investment of LOVE, SHARE, GIVING? -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-13 {27} (#333224@0)
              U used a evil word through!
              • Didn't you see -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-13 {350} (#333239@0)
                some intend to see marriage as investment?

                didn't you hear the conversation like --

                husband, "I've done this, this and this; you should do that, that and that."
                Wife, "I've been fair to you, but you didn't give me this and that..."

                When a couple start to compare who devote to the family more, doest't it sound like an investment?
                • Well, both should contribute to their marriage of coz........by their own role and ability......The point is not HOW MUCH, The point is: HOW HARD U DO.....right? -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-13 (#333242@0)
          • 我同意爱不是一种投资，不然就不是ture love， 有的“气管炎”一辈子过的幸福，因为他一直有恋爱的感觉！ -tristan(风亦雪@起个大早); 2002-1-13 (#333380@0)
      • U mean a hopeless maybe happier than a engineer who has stable job and stable marriage life? -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-13 (#333220@0)
        • I meant, when it's not for living, one should follow its heart rather than follow other's -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-13 (#333231@0)
          • some people set their living goal like a house, car, kids, wife, dogs. Some people set it like: Have extra money to travel lot....Some are jet plane....and The truth is: most people chase after material -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-13 {53} (#333244@0)
            ......coz they will be happier after get those.......
            • also coz material wouldn't betray their owner.....haha -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-13 (#333271@0)
              • U got! :-) -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-13 (#333275@0)
    • NO, lower level than that even! :-) -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-13 (#333218@0)
      • What do you mean by lower level? -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-13 (#333228@0)
        • I am not famous, successfully, holding a high position and rich! :-( -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-13 (#333237@0)
          • Well, the key to you own happiness is whether you are following your heart, right? -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-13 {366} (#333247@0)
            once a white friend of mine said to me :" xxxx, you know, you Chinese are so used to play guilt - how parents would think about it if I do this or that; how other people expect me to do this or that.... For western guys, we would say,"who cares?!!!!" no wonder Chinese are less happier!"

            I opened my mouth, then said in a lower tone," not all the time...."
            • I know, esp Chinese men have more pressure from parents and society. -babyface(Tracy); 2002-1-13 {51} (#333255@0)
              Tell u truth: Now, I am following money, :-) ha ha!
              • goot thoughts! ;-} -drunker(酒囊饭袋); 2002-1-13 (#333265@0)
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