Topic: 我把最心爱的人丢了，，，我不想来加拿大了，大家骂我，打我吧，我好受些，痛苦啊。。。。 @枫下论坛 The Rolia Forum

枫下佳缘 / 情爱悠悠 / 我把最心爱的人丢了，，，我不想来加拿大了，大家骂我，打我吧，我好受些，痛苦啊。。。。 -guest:J; 2000-8-14 (#6245@0)

去死了，谁让你这么小气！把人骂跑了？你还信誓旦旦的两年的加拿大移民都是为了她！！你活该，不珍惜，到头来后悔！活该！！！！去死！！！！！！！！！ -jerryzh(jerryzh); 2000-8-14 (#6247@0)

Good imagination, or, u are the girl? Hehe.. -lumlumq(lumlum); 2000-8-14 (#6249@0)

no,sir,I am the boy,,,I hate myself,,,I have no idea,,,and she has already married,,I promise her,I will wait for her forever,and I WON'T marry if not her,,,,,,and she is suffering pain,and I have no idea to help her,,,,,I GAI SI... -guest:J; 2000-8-14 (#6253@0)

Okay, tell u sth... -lumlumq(lumlum); 2000-8-14 {1309} (#6257@0)
本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛As she has been married, can she tell who she loves more, u or her husband?
If it's u, u still have chance, don't u?
If it's her husband, ur promise, ur oiginal plan can't be realized any more, no matter how painful u are, u should face this fact. Then the only way u can kill ur pain, recover fr love shadow, and begin ur new life is, to leave her as soon as possible, as far as possibe. Believe me, time and distance will change everything.
First of all, u and she should talk seriously about this. She should be able to tell whom she loves better. Marriage is not everything. The most important thing is, what kind of life u want to choose. AS both of u are adults, U know u should be responsible for ur behaviors.
But I can tell that, to break a family is not an easy and good thing, as three of u will be hurted by this, for sure. Look ahead, the forest is so large, u are so young, won't be worried about love or partner. To her, as she choosed to marry that guy, she should have her own reasons, no matter she just wanted to make u regret it, or for her 3-minute intention. So, pls calm down.

I believe u will have ur own love again, for sure u can recover fr it as time being. I can fully understand ur pain now, but, it's just temporary. Time is the best doctor.

Good luck. ^_^更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net

why you so kind always?,,,,,, -guest:J; 2000-8-14 {1378} (#6269@0)
本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛Thanks first,I tried,many many times,nearly faint by pain,,,she need a partner,sounds better,,,she need to study abroad,and I can only give her PeiDu,so I gave up all,from beginning,go to immigration,I could not do her bad,so I gave up all,and we had a big quarrel,because of ,,,,so complex,,,,,a bad freind carried bad words between us,and we part for only 1 year,,,,,she is so hurry,she connected in Internet for her new korea lover.......and this month,they got married....till me know,it should be too late already,,,,,I visited her,,,,and ,,,,,and i know,so few months that she know a little about her husband,,,,I am the best one That loves her and knows her in this world!!! but I and she know,the marriage determinds all,,,,and she loves him..............though I could give her immigrationship,,,but her do'nt want to change,,,,,,,I hate my self,,,,i lost my love....and even I can't make her happy,,,,she wanna see NO me again,,,,I am pain.....so pain.i want give up the LP,,,,,stay at china,,,without her,,,,I do not want to Can,,and China will be better,,,,there are my friends and parents,bros,sisters.....they will care of me at least,,,,,and many persons can tell chinese,,,,without her,i wanna no Canada!....Thank you lumlumq,,I only want to wait for her,,,,,,till we'd be 50's or 60's,till her husband shouldn't love her,,,,I will love her forever,,,,更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net

Never wait.... -lumlumq(lumlum); 2000-8-15 {2662} (#6275@0)
本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛Yes, I can feel how deep u love her, and how anxious u need her. I can totally understand. As I was mad for love before, I can understand the feeling becoming crazy. The feeling of losing the whole world, or the feeling of being fooled. I was so down not long time ago. Suffering fr love is the most painful thing in this world. I know, trust me.

But, I don't know how long have u been together, and how well u know each other. According to u, u said, u are the only one in this world who knows her best, and can give her good life. I know u can do everything for her, even for immigration, u applied for her, right? But how about her? Does she also know u well, understand u well? If so, why only some bad words can seperate u? She didn't trust u at all. Or, she didn't have enough confidences on u. On some sense, as she was crazy about going aborad, she's just using u as a tool to go aborad, sorry for so direct words. If I offended her, pls forgive me, as it's my feeling, maybe it's the truth. Do u think the love mixed with other target is a true love? Maybe she really needs partner, and her current husband can give her something, some feeling u can't give her. But u can't face this fact. Maybe he is the one she has been looking for.

I know u are stubbon, but, pls give a chance urself, or other good girl who is loving u but not letting u know. Game is over, for whatever reason, u, are a kind of loser. But it's not the end of the world, and u still own so many precious things, as u said, ur happy family, ur friends, ur colleagues, all the people who care u and wish u be happy. Now, u have the LP, which means u have more choices than others. U can go aborad, get a foreign degree, a citizenship, then u can choose staying or going back, after 4 years. U are still young. Don't be too naive to think about 50 or 60 years old. Especially to wait for sb. U can't even know what will happen tomorrow, or the day after tomorrow. So the only thing we can do is, to be healthy and happy everyday, enjoy everyday. Then u will not regret.

AS time being, u will have ur own love, which really belongs to u. Ur own girl, who will follow u wherever u go, will be with u no matter what happens. Believe me.

As u have LP now, don't just say giving up so easily, pls think it over. It's important for u. Don't just throw it away as a child. Though u are still young, I believe.

Oh, if my words can release a little pain fr u, I will be very happy. Because I really learn the painful feeling.

Though I have a final exam next Monday, I still spend time in writing these sentences, hope u be happy, really.

Smiling lumlum更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net

I had a dream ever, -guest:J; 2000-8-15 {409} (#6289@0)
I had a dream,she will divorce from this husband soon,and I seldom have the wrong ones!! it is truth! some situations that appeared from my dream all become reality! and I hope I can wait for one or two years,she might be ill or divorce,,,,,I go on my landing,and she could need help..it is the true!! I did have that dream! and it will be coming on! Believe me,lumlum,Thank you.your genuine help! I know it!!

did u meet her before her marriage? anyway, you should respect her choice if you really want her happy. It's not nice to hope she might be ill or divorce. YOU LOVE YOURSELF MUCH MORE. -guest:; 2000-8-15 (#6326@0)
I have no mercy on you. You even want your beloved one to be suffered from illness or divorce(no matter she wants you or not). Your 'forever' love is too cheap. Grow up, and be a little less selfish when some day someone really loves you. -guest:; 2000-8-15 (#6327@0)

对不起，我不是故意的，只是做和梦，能让我有一点幻想的余地吗？？我不会去搞破坏，我爱她，也爱她的丈夫，她的孩子，呜呜呜呜呜…… -guest:J; 2000-8-15 (#6354@0)

不回了，不回了，我走了，大家移民快乐！新生活快乐！ -guest:J; 2000-8-15 (#6355@0)

梦不会错的，我相信你，但是我要有一个机会来帮助她，毕竟，我爱她，一辈子都。。。 -guest:J; 2000-8-15 (#6293@0)

forever is not an easy word to say. -guest:; 2000-8-15 (#6325@0)

等一个人是最愚蠢的事情了。 -lionel(Lionel); 2000-12-17 (#18421@0)

is J==Jerry? -guest:; 2000-8-14 (#6268@0)

no such a guess of guest -guest:J; 2000-8-14 (#6270@0)

but look above, seems jerry knows a lot about your love. -guest:; 2000-8-14 (#6272@0)

hey, I am not blaming you, but if you can speak out your pain, you definitely can get through it sooner or later. life is long enough for us to suffer or enjoy. -guest:; 2000-8-14 (#6273@0)

谢谢 -guest:好点了; 2000-8-15 (#6286@0)

hehe, you know what, as I know, really mature man are not supposed to do this. -guest:; 2000-8-15 (#6328@0)

Be a man, J. Crying on this message board will make you a bigger loser. You are not the only one suffering from losing love in the world but crying make you very immature.... -wonton_soup(Wonton Soup); 2000-8-15 {403} (#6337@0)
I am having the same bad experience as yours now. I can hardly eat and sleep at the beginning. Although I keep persuading myself, as a man, life have more important thing to worry about, the heart-stabbing feeling just haunting me every night. So if I were you, when you see a girl who treat you nice, you treat her like a queen. when you meet a girl who is trying to fool around with you, you fuck her.

hey hey -guest:; 2000-8-15 {84} (#6338@0)
hey, if she enjoys your f***, does that make you feel better? save some energy, hehe

Oh Man... -wonton_soup(Wonton Soup); 2000-8-15 {85} (#6339@0)
Don't tell me you don't know the difference between making love and being fucked...

oh, man, don't tell me you don't know difference between human being animal---you never know what would happen! -guest:; 2000-8-15 (#6348@0)

and animal---you never know how animal behaves. -guest:; 2000-8-15 (#6349@0)
so -guest:; 2000-8-15 {42} (#6350@0)
why don't you save energy for your queen.

No more argument Mr. Energy-saver. Let's stop here. -wonton_soup(Wonton Soup); 2000-8-16 (#6424@0)

was that argument? hehe, last word: Why you think I am a Mr.? -guest:; 2000-8-16 (#6433@0)

Haha, Who cares . -wonton_soup(Wonton Soup); 2000-8-16 (#6442@0)

我要回去睡一会儿了，都三天没睡了，痛苦死了。…… -guest:J; 2000-8-15 (#6353@0)

Sailor,抱歉的很，我已经没有地方去说了，借你的地方，很不好意思浪费了大家的时间和精力。。。男儿当自强，不是男儿当自戕。我们后悔有期…… -guest:J; 2000-8-15 (#6356@0)

anyway, those words by people at mit bbs love board are quite reasonable and good for you!!! -guest:; 2000-8-15 (#6370@0)

谢谢,你是个有心人.... -guest:J; 2000-8-16 (#6392@0)

情死 -guest:; 2000-8-20 {1887} (#6794@0)
本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛情死

作者：亦舒

为爱情丧生的人，真是很值得佩服，为失恋自杀的人，却很奇怪。
想来想去，总是想不出，怎么会有这样的人，失恋的意思就是，他还爱对方，
对方却不爱他了。这其实是很简单的一回事，有志气的，可以另觅对象东山再起。
意志消沉的，也可以从此不提爱情两个字。
世界就是这样大。
为了别的自杀！根本是对生活的厌倦，对人生的失望，命运的抗议，都可以不
愿意活下去，很容易理解，但是为了某人不愿意接受他的爱，巴巴的去死掉，真是
奇怪。
爱人是自由的，不爱人也是自由的，没有比强逼别人接受爱情更荒谬的事情。
每个人有资格去爱另一个人。但是这另一个人也有权选择。
作为男人，对一个女人死缠烂打，真是差劲，然后忽然之间自杀示威，好叫对
方抱歉一生。这种行为，实在很卑鄙下流。
双方相爱，无法结合，抱在一起死了，虽然懦弱，倒还合理。一个人无端端的
自杀，是莫名其妙的事情。
人心总有压抑的时候，爱情也是很沉重的一回事。但是，可以想想父母兄弟，
夜里抬头看看星月。上帝造这世界，并非叫每个人只为爱情活着。为太阳月亮又有
何不可，吸两口空气，低潮就过去了。三十年后，想起为爱情萌生死念，会觉得可
笑。
必须学习把每一样事情都慢慢习惯，迁就得很舒适地活下去。非爱情不可的生
活，是过渡时期。有时候感情比爱情还漂亮很多。
有谁现在跑来与我说爱情这回事，我会说我老了，没有这样的精神，没有这样
的情趣，况且没有她，我活得更不错，何必一定愤愤不平，强求一些不应获得的物
事？
曾经获得爱人与被爱的机会，就该好好的做。从来没有得到过机会的，实在不
必耿耿于怀。

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纠正一点,我已经留下的是感情,具体是同情....我不会死,只是痛苦的要死的感觉...不知道你能否理解...她,,是个值得同情的女孩...... -guest:J; 2000-8-22 (#6952@0)

人生一处有一处的风景. 重新开始吧,记住教训. 天涯何处无芳草.除了爱,还有很多事等你做!! -lily.m(july); 2000-8-21 (#6827@0)
曾经,有一份真诚的爱情放在我面前 -sampan(putao); 2000-9-16 {333} (#8750@0)
曾经,有一份真诚的爱情放在我面前，我没有珍惜，等我失去的时候我才后悔莫及，　　
人世间最痛苦的事莫过于此。　　　　
你的剑在我的咽喉上割下去吧！　　　
不用再犹豫了！　　　　
如果上天能够给我一个再来一次的机会,
我会对那个女孩子说三个字：　　　　
我爱你。　　　　
如果非要在这份爱上加上一个期限，　　
我希望是……　一万年

算了,亲爱的葡萄,我宁愿在你的胸口插上三刀..... -jerryzh(jerryzh); 2000-9-17 (#8786@0)

test hot zone function. -sailor(Sailor); 2000-9-18 (#8886@0)
得不到都是好的,试想,得到又如何呢?她/他是完人吗? -lily.m(july); 2000-9-20 (#8947@0)

其实正是因为她的所作所为太幼稚了,才让人担心的.这点你正好相反了....而且结果你也想反了,,这个世界显得,在这里,特别的不同..... -jerryzh(jerryzh); 2000-9-20 (#8970@0)

how to dispatch your bad feeling? 你失去了你最爱的人，说明你不够优秀，还有更优秀的人比你强。你相信你不够优秀吗？相信你是优秀的，那么做出点业绩让她看看！别先急着死，以后有的是机会。 san antonio jhdai@public.cc.jl.cn -tocanada(kitty); 2000-12-17 (#18412@0)

yes? -guest:ljjl; 2000-12-17 (#18428@0)
也不完全，爱完了就完了，不管对方是否优秀。缘已尽，算了吧! -guest:lily.m; 2000-12-22 (#19080@0)

谢谢大家,无论是和我吵闹过的网友,也无论是帮助过我的朋友,J已经好了,也已经找到真正爱自己,自己也爱她的人了,谢谢,生活很美好.....谢谢,加拿大见!!! -guest:J; 2001-1-30 (#23309@0)

Now I know why you love that girl so much, you two have many similarity, right? such as a high speed of recovering from "fatal" pain. haha... anyway, wish the present "她" become a better lover. -rolia(rolia); 2001-1-30 (#23342@0)
Do you want her, or do you want to keep your love? You are lucky, man. Keep your love for lifetime, cos if you had married her, your love would have been gone with the wind. Take her easy, take your love away ... hehehehe, .... -sw989(Londoner); 2001-1-30 (#23354@0)

What's true love? What's the standard for a serious love? How can you know you really love a person, and the love will persist for a life time? What shoud you do, if you love a guy who -lumlumq(lumlum); 2001-1-30 {171} (#23362@0)
likes playihg games and regards life as a game, including love?

That's life. Change yourself or leave him, no other choice....

Sounds like no sense, right?

^_^