you still feel it's ok for you, you can stand it, you don't care it, you don't push him to stay with you more time, then you can go for your married lover...

"我要让他体会爱情的快乐，而不要他感受爱情带来的压力", how childish it is! If it is love, then you must want/need sth (like emotion, concern, taking care) from him, you will not satify with him at last. it surely will bring pressure to him..