I believe it must be very hard to learn Chinese and English at the same time. If your father did as you said, I really admire him.
Maybe you should talk more about your own experience, since your background is different than most of us. We don't have to be so aggressive and attack each other. Why not to be patient and listen to each other instead.
BTW, I read an article, "-ese" is a derogatory word root, while "-ian" is a commendatory word root. That's why some people call them Canadian and American. Maybe we can use Sino-man instead of Chinese. :)