本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛我不相信恩爱夫妻一辈子未红过脸的鬼话，爷爷奶奶吵过，爸爸妈妈吵过，公公婆婆吵过，他们也都相亲相爱白头到老了。老公属于中国传统教育体制培养下来的老书呆子，内柔外刚，细致体贴，但从来不会说一句哄你高兴的话，经常是好事做了后还要给你留句呛人的话噎得你半天不痛快，。绝大多数情况下由于知道他的秉性，也不计较，但我也有心情不好的时刻，就一定要一吵高低。吵架没好嘴，最后恨不得见了你不烦别人，谁都懒得搭理谁。儿子在这里又没法求助于爷爷奶奶姥姥姥爷帮忙，总是用一份无助的神情引起我的怜悯，我不吵了，老公也就没事人似地忙他自己的事去了，绝不会说一句软话。最近的一次也是起因于鸡毛蒜皮小事的吵架刚刚进入热火朝天的阶段，才上小学二年级的儿子发话了：Hi, Mom and Dad, Stop it. Your guys should say sorry to each other. Gentleman first please, and then all bad things are over. 小孩伢子懂什麽，吵架继续。谁料儿子严肃起来，居然落下泪来。Hi, stop it. I don’t want your guys quarrel till divorce. I need Dad stay with me when Mom is in her night shift, and I need Mom accompany me when Dad go outside studying or do something else. Say sorry to each other, then game is over. Gentleman first please. 这是我们始料不及的。这回老公先动了心疼儿子的心，居然拉着儿子的手向我连说了五次我对不起了还不行吗。这是结婚以来我头一次听到他对我说软话，倒一下令我有找不到北的感觉，然后自然是一份得意的胜利者面孔。儿子抹了把眼泪，马上清醒地说: Hi Mom now it’s your turn to say sorry. Don’t take advantage of my Dad’s sorry, and sometimes you are not correct too. Say sorry please. 直到我说了对不起了，儿子才破涕为笑。我惊诧于他的想法，他倒轻松：I just try to teach your guys how to respect each other and solve the problem by yourselves, and I learn it from school. When two persons have conflicts, always remember to say sorry to each other, and then all bad things are gone. That’s it.
初来加拿大的时候，我难以想象曾被爷爷奶奶姥姥姥爷宠坏了的他会跟大人讲这麽多道理。我们夫妇忙着在这里重找立足之地，他的靠山爷爷奶奶姥姥姥爷又不在这里，来这里没多久就送他去public group Daycare, 很快上学前班了继续学前学后托在Daycare. 应了中国那句古话，有山靠山，没山独立，他很自立，到了二年级刚刚摆脱了ESL，便开始更理性的思维了，事事要跟你讲道理的，而且多用英语，但比我小时候更有人情味儿。
关于爱好选项的对话：
Hi, boy. How about soccer? It’s boy stuff.
No, I don’t like running in the sunshine or in the rain, and I prefer to learn how to swim in the pool.
Em. How about playing piano? You know here is easy to rent a piano from store, and it is said the learning fee is even cheaper than china.
Mom, save your money please. I don’t like to be stuck in front of piano most of my spare time. It’s boring, and I need fresh air and even watching TV to search my favourite stories. If I can choose indoor game, I prefer board game, and it makes my brain working.
Etc., etc.
今年夏天回国探望父母，记得老爸对我小时候的评价是：我们那时为事业也忙得要命，大姑娘也很自立，小时候样样都好，只是太犟，因为这没少挨我的打。往往是先惹了祸的妹妹很乖巧，见父母不高兴就说我错了，还讨得糖果吃，你却认为她是叛徒，自己没错，挨了打，还犟嘴没错就是没错，理论是江姐宁可十指扎满竹签痛不欲生也要坚持真理，气的老爸鼻孔朝天。我自己现在听起来倒要笑破肚皮于我当时所接受的学校教育。父母没法知道我何时开始变得柔和了，我自己也是跟着感觉走过来的。
还是那句话，你没法真正掌握下一代的未来，只要他懂得人生的基本道理，稍稍把把关就行了，还给他快乐的生活空间和自由的思维吧。更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
初来加拿大的时候，我难以想象曾被爷爷奶奶姥姥姥爷宠坏了的他会跟大人讲这麽多道理。我们夫妇忙着在这里重找立足之地，他的靠山爷爷奶奶姥姥姥爷又不在这里，来这里没多久就送他去public group Daycare, 很快上学前班了继续学前学后托在Daycare. 应了中国那句古话，有山靠山，没山独立，他很自立，到了二年级刚刚摆脱了ESL，便开始更理性的思维了，事事要跟你讲道理的，而且多用英语，但比我小时候更有人情味儿。
关于爱好选项的对话：
Hi, boy. How about soccer? It’s boy stuff.
No, I don’t like running in the sunshine or in the rain, and I prefer to learn how to swim in the pool.
Em. How about playing piano? You know here is easy to rent a piano from store, and it is said the learning fee is even cheaper than china.
Mom, save your money please. I don’t like to be stuck in front of piano most of my spare time. It’s boring, and I need fresh air and even watching TV to search my favourite stories. If I can choose indoor game, I prefer board game, and it makes my brain working.
Etc., etc.
今年夏天回国探望父母，记得老爸对我小时候的评价是：我们那时为事业也忙得要命，大姑娘也很自立，小时候样样都好，只是太犟，因为这没少挨我的打。往往是先惹了祸的妹妹很乖巧，见父母不高兴就说我错了，还讨得糖果吃，你却认为她是叛徒，自己没错，挨了打，还犟嘴没错就是没错，理论是江姐宁可十指扎满竹签痛不欲生也要坚持真理，气的老爸鼻孔朝天。我自己现在听起来倒要笑破肚皮于我当时所接受的学校教育。父母没法知道我何时开始变得柔和了，我自己也是跟着感觉走过来的。
还是那句话，你没法真正掌握下一代的未来，只要他懂得人生的基本道理，稍稍把把关就行了，还给他快乐的生活空间和自由的思维吧。更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net