本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛Confrontation
Since my posting about my abandoning some job candidates, I have been practicing strict low-profile policy. I don't want to be confronted with any people, and confront with any other people. I found it meaningless to dispute with others.
In my opinion, Chinese people like to confront with others, while the westerners try to avoid confrontation with others. In addition, Chinese poeple are easy to get involved in confrontation. Here is a good example. I am teaching Java again. One of the students in the class, who graduated from CS department of Wenipig University in Canada, articulated her strong prejudice to those without a CS degree during the break time. According to her, " it is unfair in this world because even Dog and Cat can do programming. She probably never became aware that her words made the instructor unhappy. This lady has more than 10 years of programming experiences, but I found she is quite messy in organizing some for-loops and while-loops.
There are some basic approaches in avoiding confrontation. Let me assume that my friend Ji-Ang has wrote a paper claiming that dogs are smarter than cats. I disagree with him. But I don't need to shout at the world to degrade Ji-Ang. What I can do is to write another paper, stating we lead to some different conclusions after our researches. This sounds silly, but it is an art of communication. We just state our arguments and different conclusions---- the readers can have their own judgements.
Just remind an interesting phenomenon: Whenever somebody praised my English writings, some others will stand up to prove that Jabber's English writing is just so so. Probably those people just wanted to show they have more sharp judgements. If we hear some Canadians praise us for our English, do we take it serious? The teacher in the North America always tell the parents that their kids are doing well...this usually makes the parent feel better.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
Since my posting about my abandoning some job candidates, I have been practicing strict low-profile policy. I don't want to be confronted with any people, and confront with any other people. I found it meaningless to dispute with others.
In my opinion, Chinese people like to confront with others, while the westerners try to avoid confrontation with others. In addition, Chinese poeple are easy to get involved in confrontation. Here is a good example. I am teaching Java again. One of the students in the class, who graduated from CS department of Wenipig University in Canada, articulated her strong prejudice to those without a CS degree during the break time. According to her, " it is unfair in this world because even Dog and Cat can do programming. She probably never became aware that her words made the instructor unhappy. This lady has more than 10 years of programming experiences, but I found she is quite messy in organizing some for-loops and while-loops.
There are some basic approaches in avoiding confrontation. Let me assume that my friend Ji-Ang has wrote a paper claiming that dogs are smarter than cats. I disagree with him. But I don't need to shout at the world to degrade Ji-Ang. What I can do is to write another paper, stating we lead to some different conclusions after our researches. This sounds silly, but it is an art of communication. We just state our arguments and different conclusions---- the readers can have their own judgements.
Just remind an interesting phenomenon: Whenever somebody praised my English writings, some others will stand up to prove that Jabber's English writing is just so so. Probably those people just wanted to show they have more sharp judgements. If we hear some Canadians praise us for our English, do we take it serious? The teacher in the North America always tell the parents that their kids are doing well...this usually makes the parent feel better.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net