Yes, I am also the applicant in our case. We stayed there for less than 1 month and I brought the kid back without returning permit. That means I've to get back within the 183 limit. My husband stayed there and applied all miscellaneous numbers, cards, etc.
Meizi, life is not easy if you choose our method. However, it could play safe and gain more time, more room to reconsider. It deems to be very difficult decision, as it's not just for ourselves, but also for the future of the kid. We have to think over and over whether it's worthwhile for us to lose all we have now, (and the potential), to exchange for our downgrade in both social status and career, yet the kid's broad development path.
Good luck to you.