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The reason I brought up this topic here is trying to help all of us (men and women). It is our mutual problem.
I am not trying to make you angry. I don't mind if you don't do the same for me (I know how the Chinese guys in Canada like). I just want find out why. Because in China I did meet guys of good quality. I don't know why I can't find them here. If you can help me to find where I went wrong. I will very appreciate.
I met my ex half a year ago after all these years (he seems a little better than the rest I met, not in terms of job, or salary, or goodlooking), but because he seems to me a nice person and will care for me and we can together make a happy life even if we are not rich.
I was wrong, he cares for his money without even knowing it. He can use my money without any hesitation, but it is difficult for him to even pay for the dinner out. Money is one thing, the other is his ability. He's been in Canada many years, should have equivalent experience like I do. But he can't help when I needed him. He actually tried to help as long as it is nothing related with his money, but he only mess things up. He says he loves me more than anything else and that he will never marry if I am not his wife, but I can't accept the way he loves me. It is different from the way I love him. If I love someone, I will give him everything. If I already give my heart, what else I need to hide from him?
He knows why I left him and he still can't make that up even though he "loves me more than anything else."
I believe white men are very clear about money terms. They won't lure a Chinese girl just because of their money. They have something else. I don't like white man but I was forced to look to the white men because Chinese men are very disappointing.
You said there are more Chinese men than Chinese women in Canada and that's why the girls have more choices, if that is the only reason, then the girls should be able to find a relatively good man and most of the Chinese men should be able to find a good match, only a few of them will be the unlucky ones. But you know and I know this is not the case as most of the Chinese men are still available.
I am very sad, and I couldn't find out an answer to satisfy myself.
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