When I was talking about help, I didn't mean willingness or not. It is strictly related with his ability to do things. There are so many ways of doing one thing. He chose the most difficult and costly way because he doesn't have enough life experience or he is not mature enough.
I agree with you that love is cultivated by sharing common interests, by going out for all kinds of activities and meeting all kinds of people. Well, he doesn't think so. He said I came to your home everyday so that you can understand me better. We did nothing else in my home except having dinner together. I didn't see he has any uniqueness in using the chopsticks!
I got a few response from this site, some sending emails to me. Most of them are guys and they are all better than my ex. I don't know why I chose him. I don't have good eye sight, that is my weakness and I will remember that.