Everybody has right to respect himself in some way, if you don't respect yourself or treasure your own credit, don't blame others.
Why you have to rely on other people? Why you cannot success independently? Why you have so many excuses for being cheater? I have a friend who has been a programmer ever since 14 years old, but he still went to university to obtain his bachelor degree in CS. There could be hundreds of reasons for your friend, who looks good from your own eyes, not to get a job yet. I know YOU HAVE NO IDEA ABOUT WHAT'S RIGHT OR WRONG, BUT PLEASE, DON'T DESTROY REPUTATION OF CHINESE. What a shame.