I found my first job in 1.5 months, my wife and daughter began to study at the same time. Even though, we have the same feeling as you.

It's hard to compare two countries, or two cities. And it's more hard to compare two 生活方式. For me, I don't think about the difference any more. Now, I am just curious about the life of local people, and begin to find new interestings. Take more social activites will also help.