本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛论坛里，大部分反驳我的女性就是因为我的“极端言论”： 40+的女性，带个孩子，能找个性格好的男人就不错了。。。我的这个话很极端吗？很歧视女性吗？

注意这个14岁孩子的话：“我父亲不赌博，不吸毒，也把钱拿回家，我的父亲不坏“。。。。

感觉大家要深刻理解傅雷对儿子的建议：”婚姻中，找一个善良的人，其他方面的不足，人生很长，都可以慢慢培养。。。“


我的话和这个14岁的孩子，傅雷的话没有大的差别”找一个三观类似，心底善良的男人，已经是概率很低的事情了，很不容易了，，，，，，其他的身高，收入，遗产，都是锦上添花的，虚幻的东西，都不是本质问题，，“

加拿大的第二代，确实让人佩服。



我和老公生气的时候，14岁的儿子这样劝我：Mom, I know you pay so much and you get so little from the family. I do feel sorry for you. But, mom, look at it this way: my dad is much better
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than lots of other men out there. At least he doesn't gamble, he doesn't take drugs, he doesn't abuse his family, he doesn't cheat on you, he doesn't boss you around. And I know some men do those bad things, like one of my classmates' dad beats up his mom often. My dad works and brings home pay check. He contributes in other things for the family too...I know he is not like you. You work so hard for the family and you give all your heart to me. But my dad is still not bad too. I consider myself lucky in terms of you two care about me. ... 我听了后感觉好多的。和好的比，他大不如。但和坏的比，他还是要强一些的。更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net