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say I love you

本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛when I was little, I hadn't any taste. I liked to see some so-called classical movies. among them the 'love story' was one of my favorite. what impressed me most was what jennifer said repeatedly 'love means you need never say sorry'.

and at that time I went to another extreme, I construed that into 'love means you need never say a word'. in my eyes, if two person love each other, they can know the other one's love without any word. they can fully feel each other from their eyes.

because that I have never said 'I love you' to my parents. whatever my parents do for me, I only accept that for granted. sometimes it occurs to me I should say ' thank you, I love you', but I never do it. I say to myself 'my parents know I love them, that is enough.'

sometime ago, I happend to read one of sanmao's novel. she said when she was abroad, whenever her father wrote to her, as long as the letter was in chinese then it must be so serious, but if it was in english then it would be full of 'dear, my love'. I couldn't help laughing then. are we so shy that we couldn't say 'I love you' in chinese? or is it only because we needn't say 'I love you' to each other?

during one period of time I was in bad mood. and I wanted to buy something for my parents. in the department store, I chose several cans of chocolate. and then I saw the advertisement of one chocolate, I stood there crying regardless of the crowd of lookers-on. I presented the chocolate to my mother and said to her 'do you know the advertisement of the chocolate?' I went ahead, ' it is said the chocolate is for my dearest love.' it was my first time to say 'love' before my mother, though I didn't say it directly. and the next day my mother told me she was so moved and she would keep the chocolate as long as she could.

the father's day is coming, and I will call to my father and tell him ' I love you, for ever!'更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
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  • 枫下拾英 / 美文转贴 / say I love you
    • It's a matter of cultural difference. We Chinese have our own ways of expressing our emotions.
      • beautiful
        it is very nice, dverybody need to expression love and hate, let people know you real emotion。
    • It is so weird just to follow facialy some western ritual. e.g I'd prefer to kiss beauty's cheek while met, but they won't allow, it is not chinese way and actually not too bad, haha.
      Say Thanks to your old Chinese father, good idea, but be aware of your father being scared for your modern alien expression, hehe
      So we could really get some good essence, not only imitation of some trival behaviour , expression of western culture, remember that we really get sth to proud for 5000 years civilization.
    • I was deeply moved because I have the same feeling. Up to today I never say " I love you" to my parents, it is so sad story. I think many of us have the same feeling.
    • My parents never said they loved me and vice versa. But they really love me and me too.