本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛1 永远不为孩子牺牲自己的兴趣，工作，生活习惯。只剩下一块肉的时候，我先吃。
Having seen too many parents scarified too much for the next generations, passing on all the hope, living in a dream, and creating a tremendous amount of burden onto the kids unfairly. It is understandable when the material conditions were tough. Now we are living in a free society, no worries whatsoever for food, housing, transportations. There is a greater benefits for parents to live a good life, without having to put the burden onto our next generations. No scarifies, no expectations, no stress on the relationship. Let kids be kids, let parent be a free soul doing whatever they deserve to do. As for the meat, people see it literally. It is not.
2 从小让孩子很清楚自己的位置 - 是家里的客人，长到18岁就要准备走人。洗碗挣钱，从8岁做起。
My wife and myself created the household. Kids are part of our lives forever. However, in terms of living together and providing all the necessities, it is only meant for this short period of time. I am ultimately thankful to having this experience and I am enjoying it day by day. But I don’t want to create a fake expectation that this house can forever provide. I will one day be getting old and no longer provide. The kids should be prepared to face the outside world – the sooner the better. I am ready to letting go whenever it is time. No strings attached, let it fly.
3 给孩子充分的自由 - 信仰，爱好，皆不干预。想信伊斯兰，没问题。
I have no religion. I don’t have all the answers. Simply, I don’t know. No one really knows. It is unfair to ask someone to believe or not to believe something that I have no idea, or proof with. Religion is the single source of most conflicts in the world. It won’t be in my family.
4 让其知道我们之间的关系平等，孩子完全可以反对我的建议，争取自身利益。敢于从我嘴里抢肉。
I will only be happy when my kids are brave enough to stand up for themselves, even in front of me. Fighting for one’s right, does not matter if it is outside, or inside a family. Too many times I have seen injustice being done in the name of “love”. I can be of a danger to my own kids. I need to educate them to be weary of me before I may go down a path of dark side.
5 从小养猫，让她知道爱心，正直，诚实 比 成绩，才艺更重要
Do not have to be a cat. Any living thing will do. When kids are still kids, they should learn how to be responsible to take care of others – providing food, medicine, care, consistently no matter it is healthy or sick. At the end, they will learn a lesson of the meaning of life.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
Having seen too many parents scarified too much for the next generations, passing on all the hope, living in a dream, and creating a tremendous amount of burden onto the kids unfairly. It is understandable when the material conditions were tough. Now we are living in a free society, no worries whatsoever for food, housing, transportations. There is a greater benefits for parents to live a good life, without having to put the burden onto our next generations. No scarifies, no expectations, no stress on the relationship. Let kids be kids, let parent be a free soul doing whatever they deserve to do. As for the meat, people see it literally. It is not.
2 从小让孩子很清楚自己的位置 - 是家里的客人，长到18岁就要准备走人。洗碗挣钱，从8岁做起。
My wife and myself created the household. Kids are part of our lives forever. However, in terms of living together and providing all the necessities, it is only meant for this short period of time. I am ultimately thankful to having this experience and I am enjoying it day by day. But I don’t want to create a fake expectation that this house can forever provide. I will one day be getting old and no longer provide. The kids should be prepared to face the outside world – the sooner the better. I am ready to letting go whenever it is time. No strings attached, let it fly.
3 给孩子充分的自由 - 信仰，爱好，皆不干预。想信伊斯兰，没问题。
I have no religion. I don’t have all the answers. Simply, I don’t know. No one really knows. It is unfair to ask someone to believe or not to believe something that I have no idea, or proof with. Religion is the single source of most conflicts in the world. It won’t be in my family.
4 让其知道我们之间的关系平等，孩子完全可以反对我的建议，争取自身利益。敢于从我嘴里抢肉。
I will only be happy when my kids are brave enough to stand up for themselves, even in front of me. Fighting for one’s right, does not matter if it is outside, or inside a family. Too many times I have seen injustice being done in the name of “love”. I can be of a danger to my own kids. I need to educate them to be weary of me before I may go down a path of dark side.
5 从小养猫，让她知道爱心，正直，诚实 比 成绩，才艺更重要
Do not have to be a cat. Any living thing will do. When kids are still kids, they should learn how to be responsible to take care of others – providing food, medicine, care, consistently no matter it is healthy or sick. At the end, they will learn a lesson of the meaning of life.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net