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Ⅵ. Be able to adjust and stay calm in both good times and bad times
The road of life is full of twists and turns: there are up hills, down hills, broad ways and narrow paths, sometimes narrow winding trails, sometimes thorns strewn paths and sometimes no way to go. Especially, when a person begins to explore the road of life, truth of the universe, his path becomes more dangerous and rugged, and is full of crises; the more terrifying thing is no peers, no companions, and one can only walk alone; from time to time you can hear the howls of wolves, the roars of tigers, the hiss of snakes and the calls of ghosts. The misunderstanding of the crowds, the incomprehension of the relatives, the instructions of the "masters" and the habitual thoughts formed through thousands of years make your mind gaunt, tired; sometimes you are very anxious to lie down and fall asleep, and hope that you will never wake up again.
When we are in good times, we should not be arrogant, but should attribute all the benefits to the blessing of the Greatest Creator; we should be thankful in our hearts, so as not to be eaten up by pride and beget sorrow out of the extreme joy; when we are in bad times, we should not give ourselves up as hopeless, regarding all the disadvantages as the faults of our own words and deeds, as the evil punishment for ourselves; in this way we would not hate heaven, hate the earth, hate society and hate others; we can maintain a calm state of mind, can make vigorous efforts to turn the situation so as to turn the foul and rotten into the rare and ethereal and turn the bad times into the good times.
Here are some ways to deal with particular bad times.
Bereaved father in early youth, bereaved wife in prime life and bereaved son when aged.
This is the greatest misfortune for human life, which will make people lonely, confused, perplexed, inferior and desperate. When such unfortunate time comes, one should perceive things this way.
Misfortune generates happiness, and happiness breeds misfortune. Misfortune works as the best catalyst to Buddha; misfortune can make people attain deeper-level understanding on human life and can enlighten one's understanding on the essence of life. As long as we keep calm, accept it naturally, do not underestimate our own capabilities and continue to work hard, we will soon step on the road leading to super-time-space.
Everyone has his own life path; everything in the universe is causality. Suffering, distressing and enduring hardship is not entirely a bad thing. Buddha Sakyamuni often teaches us: Suffering in the world and despised by common people are to offset the evil of the previous life, and one may enter the high-level life space in the afterlife. Jesus said: "Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. But woe to you who are rich, for you have already received your comfort. Woe to you who are well fed now, for you will go hungry. Woe to you who laugh now, for you will mourn and weep. Woe to you when all men speak well of you, for that is how their fathers treated the false prophets. "(Matthew 5:1-10)
He who is to be made to dwindle (in power),
Must first be caused to expand.
He who is to be weakened,
Must first be made strong.
He who is to be laid low,
Must first be exalted to power.
He who is to be taken away from,
Must first be given.
He who is to be made to expand,
Must first be caused to dwindle (in power).
He who is to be strong,
Must first be made weak.
He who is to be exalted to power,
Must first be laid low.
He who is to be given,
Must first be taken away from.
From the wisdoms and instructions of Christ Jesus, Ancestor of Buddha Sakyamuni and Ancestor of Celestial Lao Tzu, we can understand: if the Greatest Creator would love you, favor you, want to offer you eternal life, they will first make you locate under the condition of poverty, hardship, suffering and torture. "When Heaven is about to place a great responsibility on a great man, it always first frustrates his spirit and will, exhausts his muscles and bones, exposes him to starvation and poverty, harasses him by troubles and setbacks so as to stimulate his spirit, toughen his nature and enhance his abilities.…''If god is going to lead you to the high-level space, he must first make you suffer and confuse; otherwise, people will be arrogant and selfish, will be out of all reason and will refuse to accept any persuasion. Without all those suffering, you can never go to the thousand-year world.
The future is so splendid and wonderful; whatever the suffering and torture would be nothing for us！
Therefore, we must understand the following: "He who is aware of the Male, but keeps to the Female", He who is conscious of the white (bright), but keeps to the black (dark)", "He who is familiar with honor and glory, but keeps to obscurity."
Only in this way, we can avoid being trapped in the worldly mire.
2. Being framed up, but one found it hard to vindicate oneself
Being misunderstood and framed up, one will feel more suffered than that of being openly hacked by knife and chopped by ax. He can not divert himself from the inner anguish and bitterness; in most cases, this is the cause of human suicide.
In this adverse situation, we can not treat ourselves and the society with conventional thinking pattern. Complaining and calling for redress, blaming everyone and everything but oneself, being filled with indignation and being hostile to society can only speed up the collapse of one's own mind. We must understand: Right and wrong should be left for God discerning; merits and faults should be left for Tao assessing; life and death, honor and disgrace should be temporarily given up; one should quietly wait for the good times of spring blossoms. One should firstly put oneself in a deserted island inwardly, " Seeing the Western World in cold detachment across the sea"; at the same time, one should change this adversity into the turning point of life, work hard to explore the essence of life and human life and win over another way out.
3. Unable to afford treatment when suffered from fatal illness
In such adversity, one should not lament his fate, nor should span a thousand miles and waste time, effort and money to look for panacea. Qin Shihuang sent three thousand young boys and girls to the so-called Penglai Island to seek the elixir; as a result, they disappeared without a trace; Emperor Li Shimin, from the Tang Dynast, ate the panacea made by Yuan Tiangang who was a famous astrologer and Taoist, also failed to prolong his life. Let alone us, these poverty-stricken common people, we go out early and come back at dusk and live frugally throughout the year; we can not afford any money to consume. Moreover, the present medical fee is so expensive; we can not even afford it. However, what deserves us to feel sorry and pity are our beloved relatives, because they are the people who feel the real sadness and pains, not us; because they want to subsist, and there is still a long way ahead of them, so we must first take into consideration for our relatives and friends.
Well, for ourselves, should we lose our spirit, wear a long face, be depressed and let it be?
Surely not! "The Bible" says: "The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace." No one can be immortal, and death is not terrible; what terrifies us are the life of spiritual entity which will move towards the lower bound after the death of our flesh life; as we are faced with death and our time in the world is running out, we need put all our mind on the construction of our life of spiritual entity; in this way, our life of spiritual entity can be led to a better life space after we die.
The real happy life is not being born in this world at all and is to go directly to the high-level space；in the second place it is the people who die immediately after the birth; in the third place it is the people who dies just after passing their childhood; the worst of life is the people who live confused and puzzled, and have to suffer at the age of eighty. Because, the earlier the death, the less the sin; the less the sin, the more chances to go to the high-level life space.
How to build up a spiritual entity life? The most effective and simplest way is to enter Lifechanyuan, and take the road of super-time-space; in this way, you can transcend the life and death, directly reach eternal; not only that, your fatal illness may also disappear, and you may rejuvenate again.
Therefore, with the fatal illness, one can not afford the treatment, which may be a chance for one to understand life, to find new and good situation in the desperate life, to bloom again and change from sorrow to joy. Seizing this opportunity, as you suddenly become enlightened, you may laugh: "Ha ha ha, so that is what it is "!
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