It is good only in your eyes, or some people eyes who think it is important. For her, a good husband is much better than all your anal stuff. A husband lasts, your anal does not.
Having said that, I am not saying enjoying what you enjoy is wrong. I am saying all depends on mental state. If she can go into that mental state, she can do it and enjoy it. Now, for her, it is hell. With a flip of mind, we can make heaven into hell, and hell into heaven.