本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛I've been here for pretty long time. Now I would like to share you my experience. Thanks for any comments.
I graduated from college. My education background is not strong. My dream was to be a wife. Have a job ( not hard, but can get some money), and take care of my family.
Ten years ago, I married to a man who was very nice to me. He was handsome, gental, and very sweet. I loved him very much. But he was kind of lazy, and not very agressive.
He has master's degree in China. But he is not working hard on his career. My sister reminded me that career was very important to a man. If he had career, your family would be ok financially and everything would go well. I married him any way.
It's his idea to immigrate to Canada. we landed in toronto five years ago. I found an office job right away. Not much money, but we can live with it. He's major is very hard to get a job, plus his english is not very good. He soon found a labour job. I started to worry about him when I found that he enjoyed working as a labour. He said I like it because I did not have to think... I still believed in him and think one day, he would have a decent job and we would have a better life. Then we had our son. Life has changed. I can't go to work anymore. I started to stay at home and being a full time mommy. One day, Suddenly I realized that my husband was not dependable. If I wanted a better life, I had to work on it myself!! I've been very lazy. Now I had to depend on myself. I was so mad at my husband. I hated him because he liked being a labour. He did not want to work his resume and looking for job. He said there was no market for his major. He did not send one resume out, not even one...
I made my mind, and I told myself not to blame him anymore and work on it myself. I started to take courses in my spare time. When My son was 3 years old. I sent him to daycare. And same time, I got a certificate from a college. I got a job.My salary is 1 times higher than my husband. Now I am still taking courses in my spare time. Its not easy for me. I have to work, taking care of my son, doing housework, taking caurses... My husband, still working as a labour and did not help me out a litter...
I look down of him. Lazy and has no career. I complain a lot. I am being crazy sometimes. I use f words sometimes. I am not a lady anymore, I am a crazy woman.
Recently, he wanted to go back to college to get a deploma. But it's a full time course. I donot know if I should support him. Because I do not believe him anymore. He said we can't aford of full time study. That's why I take my course parttimely. but now ,he wanted to do a full time. If anyone in my family should go to school, that would be me. Because I garantee I would earn more after the study. But him, I do not know. He is too lazy. I do not have confidence on him. Is it sad??
I till love him i would say. He is kind to us, when I was mad, he was just being quite. But I regret to marry him. I am very tired with him. What if I married someone else who has career? I think about my sister's words very often recently....更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net